Podcast #8 - Divorced Dad Minute - Your New Definition Of Winning In Family Court

The following is not legal advice

 

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Let's consider your new definition of winning in Family Court.  If you want to hold everybody accountable when they're not meeting the best interest of your child, the best way to be doing it is to be helpful to everybody…

You will often find Family Court operates on what we characterize as "The Intimidation Factor". This means when someone can't logically explain their position and why it is the best possible thing for a child, they usually "bear their fangs" and try to intimidate you into an inappropriate consent agreement.

Don't go there. If it feels wrong, it is wrong. You however are likely at a loss on how to handle an aggressive person who is threatening and intimidating you. Especially if you've not done your homework when it comes to Family Court…it becomes hard to resist not caving into an unreasonable demand.

Especially if it's cloaked in cleverness and a deceptive appearance of reasonableness. If it's reasonable, it can be clearly, easily and quickly explained.

If it does not meet this criteria, here's your best strategy:
 
Remember this phrase: " Help me to understand how your plan is best for our child", if the offer is cloaked as being "reasonable", but feels deceitful. Then shut up and let the other side convince you with logic. Hear them out fully. Be sure you understand what is being offered. If it is possible to reach a god compromise, do so.

However, if at any point they "bear their fangs" and try to intimidate you into an inappropriate consent agreement, remember this phrase: " Help me to understand how your unhelpfulness is best for our child". Then say nothing. Let the other side retract their intimidation. If they become more threatening, simply sigh and say: "…Sadly we are not going to agree on this…I think we should see the Judge."

Whenever your ex-wife, her lawyer or even the Judge uses fuzzy logic to justify anything you consider inappropriate for your child use the above as a method to defuse the situation or put the person creating the problem on notice that you will not be easily intimidated
 
We're all part of the same team when we're in Family Court: The team that is supposed to work together to make the child happy, healthy and feeling secure that its OK to love both Mom and Dad without intimidation being part of the equation.

Intimidation is always an inappropriate tactic when it comes to what is best for kids. Don't be afraid to call someone on it when they resort to such dirty tricks. Hold them accountable through "Waging Peace"

Listen to today's Divorced Dad Minute to learn how….come back often for new insights on how you can begin turning your situation around today.

Danny Guspie & Heidi Nabert
The Dynamic Divorce Duo