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 005 - Divorced Dad Minute: Recognizing Where You Are At During Divorce: Play Now | Play in Popup | Downloads 1723

Recognize where you're at: Are you suffering from White Knight Syndrome? Are you trying to rescue the damsel in distress? Do you see your ex-wife as that damsel in distress? Or is she really "The Devil in Disguise"?
 
Are you still going to be there for your ex-wife, sharing strategies, your game plan and secrets even though she and her lawyer is really giving you a hard time?
 
A lot of guys think that their wife is the damsel in distress, and that she REALLY needs their help and, when really, she's "The Devil in Disguise"…

If you are:

- Having difficulty accepting the reality of the situation;

- Refusing to be anything other than strong,

- Paying for everything, but are being labeled a deadbeat;

- Facing situations with no power and/or control over the basics of your parenting issues; and/or

- Being manipulated by your wife, her lawyer or even your lawyer to agree to anything that's not in your child's best interests….

…perhaps you are suffering from White Knight Syndrome: The desire to be all things to all people, but not acknowledging your legitimate needs for respect, inclusion, financial responsibility, fathering your children, and being heard, understood and acknowledged so that a compromise that works for everyone, especially your children can co-exist within.

White Knight Syndrome is common. The cure is easy: Acceptance of reality, and then planning, strategizing and implementing within that which is realistic, not wishful thinking.

Listen to today's Divorced Dad Minute to learn how….come back often for new insights on how you can begin turning your situation around today.

Danny Guspie & Heidi Nabert
The Dynamic Divorce Duo