Podcast #20 - Divorced Dad Minute - Divorce 101: Step 1: Invigoration

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Let's examine the next step of Divorce 101:

STEP #1: Invigoration - The death of one's family brings about 4 stages: Denial, Anger, Grieving and Acceptance. Vigorous physical activity helps
lower stress. This supports problem solving which leads to Acceptance.

This step is the foundation to all others: How you feel (physiology) affects how you think (psychology), and how you think affects how you feel.

Lets take a deeper look at this: Your "physiology" affects your "psychology" and vice versa. Here's an example - You just got the dream job, or won the lottery, or maybe won the day in Family Court, your body language will be consistent with those results.  Others will see a very happy fellow…

Conversely if you just lost the dream job, lost your life's savings and got your backside kicked in Family Court, you'll likely be feeling pretty low down and depressed, and your body language will be consistent with those thoughts of depression.

Invigoration is an attempt to override how you feel by putting yourself into a "peak mental state". It's a management tool to modify behaviour. In the context we are suggestion invigoration is physical activity designed to help lower your stress and support. problem-solving.

This approach eventually leads you to the acceptance of your problem and to finding and applying the ultimate best solution that focuses on what's best for the children.
 
So here's the next equation:

Invigoration = Stress Management.

Why?

Invigoration comes about through some form of  vigorous exercise, such as a very brisk walk, jogging, swimming 50 laps in the pool, weight lifting or anything else that makes you break a sweat. This activity leads to stress reduction.

Stress reduction from invigoration will always begin to promote clear thinking during divorce. Therefore now you have a "Stress Management" system which forms the foundation of  "Divorce Management Plan".

After all you can't properly strategize and plan under stress unless you have a way to manage and dissipate it. So every divorced dad needs to consider this first step, in order to regain clarity and objectivity during the stress of the Family Court Process.

Remember, kids cope to the degree that parents cope during divorce. Now you have a better management system for your kids to emulate when things get rough during divorce.

Plus it's something you can actually do together to feel good that's healthy and fun. So when either you or your kids get depressed over the situation, you now have the tool to begin to fix the problem.

You might be surprised how this also opens up the communication between you and your kids. And that's the next step we'll be dealing with in Divorce 101: Communication.

Listen to today's Divorced Dad Minute to learn how….come back often for new insights on how you can begin turning your situation around today.

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