Action Guide #22 - Divorced Dad Weekly TeleSeminar - Sunday March 30/02
The following is not legal advice
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Our topic for this Sunday's call is “The Divorced Dad Roadmap - The Basics - Part 2”. Tonight's call continues The Divorced Dad Roadmap training calls for 2008. The Divorced Dad Roadmap is a process in which you can begin your preparations and review your progress as you prepare for Family Court proceedings. We will continue with the process of analysis - asking ourselves a better set of questions designed to optimize our Court case and chances of success that deal with THE BASICS of navigating inside Family Court.
In the Divorced Dad Roadmap, we teach using a roadmap and compass as an analogy: The Divorced Dad picks a "Compass Heading", completing the steps then moving on to the next compass heading. This gives the divorced dad his own "ROADMAP" to follow to success in Family Court. At each "Compass Heading", the divorced dad has to answer a series of questions:
1) The main question first (MAIN QUESTION); then
2) The questions that support the main questions answer (SUPPORTING QUESTIONS); then
3) Finally, the divorced dad compares re-evaluates his first answer to the main question.
Has his answer to the MAIN QUESTION changed? If so why? What changed the answer?
This is the process of analysis: Ask better questions to get better answers.
Here's the questions to ask yourself this week:
COMPASS HEADING # 1 - APPEARANCE
Question 1 How does the Judge see me?
1. What does the Judge see when he looks at me?
2. What personality traits do I exhibit in Family Court?
3. What have I observed in Family Court?
COMPASS HEADING # 2 - DEMEANOUR
Question 2 How does the Judge hear me?
1. Am I focused or am I whining and complaining?
2. Am I wasting valuable Courtroom Time?
3. Am I on my best behaviour before, after & during Court?
COMPASS HEADING # 3 - PHYSICAL READINESS
Question 3 Am I looking after myself?
1. Do I look like a healthy, fit and capable father?
2. Am I in a stable situation with regular routines?
3. Am I a positive role model for our children?
COMPASS HEADING # 4 - MENTAL PREPAREDNESS
Question 4 Do I have a balanced perspective?
1. Would I pass an alcohol and/or drug test?
2. Could I pass random testing for alcohol and/or drugs?
3. Do I keep good company or with undesireables?
COMPASS HEADING # 5 - EMOTIONAL FITNESS
Question 5 What is my natural temperament?
1. Do i see myself accurately and as others see me?
2. Do i exercise self control and discipline easily?
3. Do I rise to the bait and provocation easily?
COMPASS HEADING # 6 - EXIT STRATEGY
Question 6 How do I get out of Family Court fast?
1. What is my bottom line exit strategy?
2. What is the quickest way to settle matters?
3. Am I prepared to accept that it is never really over?
COMPASS HEADING # 7 - MIRED IN THE BATTLEFIELD
Question 7 What’s must I implement now?
1. Am I really accomplishing anything?
2. Can I really accomplish anything else?
3. Is it time to settle and get ready for the next time?
By taking some time to reflect on better quality questions related to tactics and strategy, divorced dads can improve their chances of success in Family Court through optimization: Looking for the flaws in their case and improving upon them. You can't change others, but you can change yourself, and hence better position yourself for success.
That's the power of asking yourself better questions - You get better answers, solutions, tactics, strategies and raise the level of your "game" because you have devised a superior gameplan.
The Divorced Dad Road Map: "The Basics - Part 2" will teach you the skills you will need to successfully navigate through Family Court and its bureaucratic organization and administration. You will find that the teleseminar training call will help you to focus and gain clarity about your situation. Join us on the next TeleSeminarClick here:
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